If you see someone you would like to meet, catch their eye and smile at them. The worst that will happen is they won't smile back and the best that will happen is that they will! If they smile back, approach them and say something positive about something uncontroversial in the environment. For example, you can talk to them about how delicious the food is, how beautiful the painting is, or how interesting the book is. Continue speaking about that subject until completion and then pick something else that is neutral that you can speak about in a positive way.
When it is time to leave, tell your exciting stranger that you very much enjoyed speaking with them and that you would love to continue talking about whatever it was that you were talking about. At this point the men can ask for the contact information. Give a big smile and walk away. That's it, master that and you've mastered the art of the introduction. Good luck!
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in 400 acres of wild-stag populated woodland. East Ham.12
Box no. 0620.
Looking for a partner, I’m placing an ad in this column. Things are significantly worse than I originally thought. Though clearly not as bad as they are for you, F to 40, who is reading this and thinking of replying. M, 34.
box no: 0101
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Meet the new face of indoor bowling! More or less the
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I cannot guarantee you’ll fall in love with me, but I can
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bucket of yummy siphoned lustiness I just don’t
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Drooling, toothless sociopath (M, 57) seeks F any age to
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What else would you need to bring out the cities geek's? But there was also a rather interesting lecture given by Dr David Buss of the University of Texas at Austin. He is the author of
"Why Women Have Sex"
The lecture was themed: "Learn about mating strategies and discuss why sex is used for more than just reproduction and pleasure."
I am not sure that I got a answer to this question in the lecture, but maybe I still will have to read the book.
He talked a lot about "Mate Guarding", and made reference to observations in the animal kingdom. The most often one that I have heard is about the elephant seals on the coast of California. The males can weight up to 4000 pounds and fight for ownership of harems of up to twenty females who are usually only up to 1000 pounds. Some other males still try to poach around the edges, but typically the successful males only
last in this position for a couple of years, and then retire to the beach alone with the other spent males.
Buss also gave examples of spider and chimp mate guarding. There were some examples of some isolated human tribes in Africa. Now the big extrapolation is how this applies to modern humans living in the big city. Why do men commit most of the murders, and 90% of the time it is their spouse. Is this about control, or reckless aggression, and or is it programmed into the DNA? Not sure I got all the answers, but these things are never clear, except maybe now that I think about it, I think it would be quite interesting to pick up a copy of the Buss's book...
The raw data for this graph can be found on my site here.
